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Why Breakups Hurt: The Underlying Truth You Never Knew About Heartbreak


Hey there, beautiful soul. After exploring the question of how long it takes to get over a breakup in last weeks article I want to go deeper into why breakups hurts so bad. I know the pain you're feeling, the tight knot in your chest, the endless questions swirling in your mind. I've been there, too. Today, let's delve into the science behind why breakups hurt so much and how understanding this can be your first step toward healing and reclaiming your life.

The Science of the Broken Heart: Why breakups hurt.

Love is an addiction; that's not just a poetic statement but a scientific fact. Research published in the Journal of Neurophysiology reveals that the part of your brain activated during a breakup is the same region associated with motivation, reward, and addiction cravings. No wonder a breakup can send your behavior a little off the wall, right?

Emotional Aftermath and Obsessions

You might find yourself in a room filled with used tissues, old photos, and DVD box sets, endlessly Googling your horoscope for a sign of hope. Look, I get it, it's part of the process. You loved him yesterday, but today you've reached 100 on your list of "Things I Always Hated About Him." It's okay to let your emotions out; it's the first step in turning this breakup into your breakthrough.

Time Heals: The Silver Lining

I want you to hold onto something crucial: As much as it hurts now, science assures us the pain will pass. Brain scans show that as time passes, the area of your brain associated with attachment starts to get less active when you think about your ex. So, take heart—time will make things better. You don't have to heal alone; I'm right here with you.

Actionable Steps

  1. Practice Mindfulness: Stay present; it's easy to get lost in memories and "what-ifs."

  2. Journal Your Thoughts: Sometimes, writing it down brings clarity.

  3. Reach Out: You don't have to go through this alone. Speak to friends, family, or professional counselors.

  4. Exercise: Physical activity releases endorphins, the body's natural mood lifters.

Turn Your Breakup into a Breakthrough

Now that you know the science, use this as a catalyst for change. You've already taken the first step by understanding why breakups hurt. But what if you could redefine this pain as an opportunity to grow? What if this is the universe's way of saying, "Girl, it's time to focus on you." How wonderful would it be to bounce back with renewed spark and enthusiasm?

Your Next Step: The Breakup Recovery Guide

I know how overwhelming the journey to healing can be, and it's easy to feel stuck or lost along the way. That's why I've created the Breakup Recovery Guide, a structured program with actionable exercises designed specifically to guide you through every stage of post-breakup recovery.

Don't go through this painful period alone—give yourself the tools to turn this breakup into your breakthrough. The guide will help you:

  • Navigate your emotions with clarity

  • Rediscover your self-worth

  • Rebuild your life with renewed focus and enthusiasm

Turn your heartache into an opportunity for profound personal growth. I've been there, I've felt the pain, and I've come out the other side. You can too. Remember, you don't have to heal alone. I'm here. I got you!


I hope this article helps you in your journey of healing. It's crucial to embrace the pain, because the other side of it is a life full of opportunities for growth, love, and self-discovery. You're not alone in this journey; I'm here, you have a whole community here, and together we'll turn your breakup into the breakthrough you deserve.

Ready for the Next Step?

Feel free to dive deeper into this journey with my Breakup Recovery Guide. It's a structured approach filled with exercises that will help you reclaim your life, one step at a time.


Who is Bastian?

Bastian is a certified Life & Mindset Coach specialized in Breakup Recovery for women, helping them bounce back stronger and more confident than ever. 

When You are Ready, here is where to Start:

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A Self Study Course designed to help you Navigate the Emotional Rollercoaster, "Detox" from your Ex and Heal from a Breakup.

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The 7 Step Breakup Recovery Road Map

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