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How To Survive The Holidays After A Breakup And Redefine Yourself!

Holidays and Heartaches: Why It Feels Tougher:

The holiday season is supposed to be a time of joy and togetherness, but if you’re dealing with a breakup, it can feel the opposite. Why? Because holidays often remind us of good times and make us miss what we’ve lost even more. It’s like everywhere you look, there are happy couples and families, making you feel extra lonely. That’s why it's super important to take special care of yourself during these times.

Why Breakups Hurt So Much:

When you go through a breakup, it can feel as painful as a real injury. Scientists say this is because parts of your brain that deal with physical pain also react when you see pictures of your ex or remember the times you spent together. It's like your brain is confused and thinks you’re actually hurt. I have already gone deeper into this topic in a previous article.

It Gets Better With Time:

Even though it feels really bad right now, most people start feeling better about 10 weeks after a breakup. Your brain starts to calm down from those intense feelings. Remember, it's okay to take time to feel better, and you don't have to rush it.

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7 Tips for the Holidays When You’re Feeling Down:

The holidays can be extra hard if you're feeling alone after a breakup. Here are some easy tips to help you feel a bit better:

  1. Chat with People Who Make You Feel Good: Talking to friends or family who understand and care about you can lift your spirits. They remind you that you’re not alone and that you’re loved.

  2. Do What Makes You Happy: Focus on activities that bring you joy or calm, like drawing, playing music, or watching your favorite movie. It’s like giving your heart a little vacation.

  3. Helping Others or Caring for a Pet: Doing good for others or taking care of a pet can fill your heart with warmth. Pets especially have a way of making us feel loved and needed.

  4. Get Moving: Exercise or any kind of physical activity is not just good for your body, but also for your mind. It helps to chase away the blues and brings a bit of sunshine to your day.

  5. Create New Traditions: Start new holiday activities that make you smile. It could be something like baking cookies, watching a new movie series, or even starting a holiday diary.

  6. Dream and Plan: Use this time to think about what you want in the coming year. Setting goals gives you something exciting to work towards.

  7. Talk to Someone If You Need To: If things get really tough, it's okay to ask for help. Talking to a counselor or therapist can help you understand your feelings and start healing.

You Are Not Alone:

Going through a breakup during the holidays can be really hard, but remember, you’re not alone in this. Many people have been where you are and have found their way to brighter days. This time is for you to learn more about who you are and what makes you happy.

A Journey Toward Renewal and Empowerment:

Remember, your current situation isn't your final destination. Think of this time as a journey, one where you can transform pain into strength and confusion into clarity. Picture yourself emerging from this experience like a butterfly from a cocoon – renewed, resilient, and ready to soar. You have the power within you to create a life filled with love, happiness, and fulfillment. The lessons you learn now are the stepping stones to a future where you’re in control, confident, and truly at peace with yourself.

Let's Connect and Transform Together:

If you're feeling ready to take the next step on this transformative journey, I invite you to join one of my connection calls. These calls are a safe, supportive space where you can share your story, gain insights, and start turning your breakup into a breakthrough. Together, we'll explore actionable steps to rebuild your confidence, rekindle your self-love, and lay the foundation for more conscious and fulfilling relationships in the future.


Who is Bastian?

Bastian is a certified Life & Mindset Coach specialized in Breakup Recovery for women, helping them bounce back stronger and more confident than ever. 

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